Tyler Perry had no such reservations. In 2009, hot grits made a cameo in the Tyler Perry film *Madea’s Family Reunion*. When engaged Lisa confesses that her fiancé has been hitting her, [Madea shells out advice](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5N_6--RgdAQ&feature=youtu.be)—mainly to turn grits, a stock pot, and a cast-iron skillet into an arsenal. A woman has to work with what she has, says Madea: "When you get tired of a man hitting on you, honey, ain’t nothing you can do but cook breakfast for him. … Bring him into the kitchen, and get you a big old pot of hot grits. And when it starts to boil like lava, after he done got good and comfortable, you say ‘Good morn-ting.’ Throw it right on him. Get you a pot like this. Take it and throw it. And you need you a skillet with a nice good balance weight on it. You understand? And as you throw it, you swat. Throw it and swat."